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DON’T GIVE ROOM TO CRISIS IN YOUR MARRIAGE
HUSBAND: LOVE YOUR WIFE UNCONDITIONALLY BUT AS THE HEAD WHEN YOU SEE DANGER, STOP THAT PERSON IN LOVE.
WIFE: SUBMIT YOURSELF TO YOUR HUSBAND, BUT NOT INTO EVIL.
THESE ARE ALL CHECKS, BUT THEY CAN BE DONE IN WISDOM.
WHEN EITHER THE HUSBAND OR WIFE ENGAGES WITH HIS OR HER PORTION OF THIS COVENANT, THE OTHER PARTY WILL SUCCUMB. IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME.
CRISIS HINDERS US FROM HAVING OUR PRAYERS ANSWERED.
-Bishop David Oyedepo
We are redeemed to enjoy hitch-free marriage
Deuteronomy 32:30, Ecclesiastes 4:9
Everyone’s life is supposed to be better than before he was married. Not better and worse.
What must I do to enjoy a glorious married life? Very simple thing
Let every husband love their wife unconditionally even as Christ loves the Church unconditionally, unreservedly – Ephesians 5:25
Heart-rooted love.
If you love someone, you won’t let him take poison, will you?
“I love you. Anything you want to take, take”: That is not love. That is murder.
As the head, you see danger: Stop. But in love.
Wife: submit yourself to your husband as unto the Lord – Ephesians 5:22
But not into evil.
Husband: “Can you follow me tonight?”
Wife’s response: To where?
Husband: “They don’t say it.”
Wife’s response: Say it now.
Husband: “No, they don’t say it. We are leaving home at 11:45 pm”
Wife’s response: Is it a prayer meeting?
“No, but it is a meeting.”
Wife: You tell me the meeting ooo, in the name of Jesus.
I mean, I am just striking the balance.
“Obey your parents in the Lord”, not outside – Ephesians 6:1
Don’t be dragged into cults because of obeying your parents. Don’t sell off eternal life.
These are all checks, but they can be done in wisdom.
Anyone can wake up on the wrong side of the bed and then they come to him, “the thing you have been looking for, I will take you somewhere.”
You say, “they don’t mention it” but come with your wife. And you go there, they say, “bring your head”: they put a mark and put one black thing. That is a mark that you are another devil’s meat, then the struggles multiply.
-God forbid. None of you will experience that.
When there is love, there will be openness.
“Where are we going? Who is taking us there? What is the matter between you?”
He is just a friend.
“Which Church does he go to?” I don’t know.
“Who is his Pastor?” I don’t know
“Darling, I am afraid. It might multiply our challenges.”
Everything about God is open. In case anybody is hiding somewhere and coming to Church during the day, you are wasting your time.
A double-minded person is unstable in all his ways. Let him not think, he shall receive anything from God – James 1:6-7
Friends, I have not added one thing to Jesus, since I met him for some 53 years now. Not one thing to Jesus. More than sufficient any day.
That is why it is not safe to get into an unbeliever in marriage. You can’t tell where he is coming and where he will take you after you get there.
Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, it is a risk.
Crisis hinders us from having our prayers answered, so don’t give room to the crisis in your marriage. It robs you of the privilege of answers to your prayers from your Father in Heaven.
Speak openly. Don’t record errors. Don’t rehearse errors. Don’t magnify errors.
“This is what you do every day”: Okay, how many days? 3 days in a year
-Peace has entered your home today.
-No one here will damage the future of your children.
What you do before them either builds them or breaks them.
All this, “you are stupid, you are mad”, before your children, some may vow never to get married, by what they have seen.
They see you lie and you are making them witness. They say, “this Christianity is fake” and early in the morning, “please get ready, we are going to Church.” After lying and making me a witness yesterday.
He doesn’t understand the gospel, he is confused.
Why? Because our lifestyle does not exemplify Christ, they can’t have conviction.
-No more. None of our children will be lost by our misbehavior.
-We will live a decent life before God and before them. It will open up a future of favor to them. They will love God far more than you and I do.
When either husband or wife engages with his or her portion of this covenant, the other party will succumb. It is only a matter of time.
-No one will use his hand to destroy his home, in the name of Jesus Christ.
